Writing a post talking about my contentment issues was hard. It’s never easy to admit when your heart is not in the right place. But after going through so many seasons of frustration with myself I’m glad to be sharing this journey with you all. I think there is great value in being open with where you are.
If you missed my last two posts be sure to check them out before reading todays! You can find them here and here!
I think some of you may struggle more with contentment of ‘things’. If so I think many of Nancy Ray‘s guidelines below will be helpful for you! If you’re like me and have discontentment with what I like to call your ‘Work = Worth’ problem, I have things added in for you too!
I do think there is value in getting rid of physical clutter and addictions to material things when trying to clear your mind and be in a more content state, so I’m sticking with Nancy’s guidelines as well. However, I’ve added in a few more guidelines to personalize this for the things I struggle with most.
Here are the Guidelines:
- Prepare – For the next 5 days (starting on October 1st) do your homework! Prepare your heart and think about what you’d like to get out of this challenge. What would a content state look like to you? For my friends who struggle with shopping, organize your closet and make any necessary purchases that you might need during these next 3 months. It’s time to give up unnecessary shopping!
- Journal – Writing out where you are during this process can be helpful! There are several questions I want to think about during this period: 1) How can you balance patience and ambition with yourself (especially in regards to work)? 2) What practices do you do to strengthen your worth outside of work? 3) How do you set boundaries with yourself and others so you be sure to put the right things first?
- Minimalism – Start reading and understanding how to implement a state of minimalism. This goes for both the clutter of ‘things’ in your life, but also mental clutter. Make space to spend and enjoy time with those around you. I think this will be an incredibly helpful resource. This will be a journey. 🙂
- Be Gracious – Gifts are okay! It’s okay to buy others gifts! It would be so hard to not to buy gifts during this period since we’ll be doing this challenge during holiday season. If someone gives you a gift also receive it graciously. You don’t want to be rude during this challenge, you instead are just taking the time to understand more about yourself.
- Use Your Common Sense Folks – Necessities are okay! If you drop and break your glasses, of course go get a new pair! Just don’t start justifying new purchases for items you already have that are perfectly fine to use.
- Try New Things – Actively pursue something that replaces your tendency to buy stuff/or to not be content. Begin thinking about something you love or a hobby you’ve always wanted to do, and put the steps in place to actually do it.
- Consider Your Habits – What are some bad habits that you need to break? One example: Eating out! If eating out is something you do because you’re rushing around and not taking the time to prepare meals, consider giving up eating out for this season. Instead take some time to slow down and prepare meals at home.
Each month will have a theme with different thought prompts and an activity you will be challenged to participate in. I’ll be sure to post these on the 1st of October, November, and December. Posts of my struggles and encouragement will be sprinkled in along the way!
Share your journey using the hashtag #contentmentchallenge ! Feel free to share both your victories and struggles along the way.
I hope you’ll join me! More soon on preparing before the #contentmentchallenge !
P.S. – The original Contentment Challenge was designed by Nancy Ray and you can check her’s out here! Most of these guidelines have come from her.