I don’t think I have to tell any of you that cellphones create problems. We spend so much time scrolling through social media, checking our emails, taking pictures, texting our family and friends, and the list goes on and on and on…
Now don’t get me wrong, phones have a great purpose, BUT we spend so much time on them that they can distract from the present moment. We miss living in the now to be on our phones. I’ve seen parents at parks scrolling through their phones instead of watching their kids play and interact with others. I’ve seen whole families sit and stare at their phones instead of talking with each other at dinner. I’ve seen parents watch dance recitals from behind an ipad trying to record every moment instead of just watching and enjoying the performance in real time. I know you’ve seen similar situations as well. We see them all too often in my opinion.
And guess what…this distraction doesn’t stop at weddings!
It’s your big day and you’re getting ready to walk down the aisle, you look around and you see that everyone has their phone out snapping pictures and recording the moment. It’s a sea of phones!
I don’t know about you, but this isn’t the vision I want to see when I’m about to walk down the aisle. I want to see the face of my mom smiling with joy, and the look of awe from my soon-to-be husband as I’m walking towards him. I want to see these faces and remember these moments without devices polluting my vision.
While I appreciate the sentiment and the desire to capture the moment from every guest, this is so incredibly distracting and takes away from being fully present.
I encourage all my couples to consider an ‘unplugged’ wedding, where they advise their guests to be present and stay as device-free as possible! Now….I know this may not be for everyone, but just consider the advantages an unplugged day can bring!
Here are a few pros to having a device free day:
01. Disconnecting and being fully present
You’ve planned a wonderful day and have a whole timeline of events ready to go for your guests. Allow them to live in the moment and fully relish the day by enjoying your wedding without the distraction of Facebook and emails (those can wait till they get home)! You only get married once, and you want to make sure everyone enjoys your wedding as intended.
02. Better professional photos
This is a big one! Often wedding photographers have to re-angle their shot because Aunt Milly decides to stick her arms into the aisle to capture the kiss with her iPhone. Phones pop up left and right during wedding ceremonies, and it makes it difficult for the photographer you hired to capture those special moments.
By having an unplugged wedding, your photographer will have an easier time capturing your day without having to move around guests, or crop out arms and phones.
03. Less noise distraction
Have you ever sat behind someone at the movies that was on their phone? The pitter pattering of their fingers touching the screen (even if it’s on silent) and the bright lights from the phone are distracting. I don’t know about you, but when this happens I can’t help but look in the direction of the phone even if just for a second.
You don’t want this experience during your wedding ceremony! Not only is that one guest distracted, but now they’ve captured the attention of other guests while you’re exchanging your vows. No thank you!
By eliminating devices during your ceremony, you can ensure your guests are focusing on what’s happening.
04. No visual distraction
Again…the glow from phones is truly disturbing! Plus, you’ll have every aunt and cousin sticking their phones out down the aisle ,or above other guests heads to try and get the perfect shot. While I appreciate their sentiment, this creates a visual distraction for other guests. There’s nothing like watching someone’s hands and phone block your view as a the bride is walking down the aisle. No one wants that!
05. Connection and relationships
Weddings are often THE ONE event where all your friends and family will be together. Weddings serve as a meeting ground for new and old friends, for the bride and grooms extended family, and for the bride and groom themselves to meet their new spouse’s family and friends! Think of another time in your life when all your favorite people will be in one place…
Could you think of one? If you can, it’s rare right?
By having an unplugged wedding, you are giving your guests the opportunity to get to know each other and develop relationships. Let’s be honest, it’s much easier to scroll through social media than to talk to someone new. So let’s get rid of those distractions!
I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait for all my favorite people to be in one room together. And when they’re all together, I want them to be fully present.
So how do you make an unplugged wedding happen? Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post on how to execute a device free wedding!