“He just doesn’t take good pictures. He freezes up in front of the camera.”
“My fiancé is so goofy, I’m not really sure how seriously he’ll take these engagement pictures.”
“He’s a little awkward taking pictures.”
“My fiancé isn’t really comfortable in front of the camera.”
Do any of these sound like something you’ve said or thought? These are all exact quotes from some of my brides talking about their fiancé when it comes to taking pictures.
I would say a good majority of my brides ‘warn’ me that their fiancé isn’t the best at taking pictures. I hear this all the time, and let me tell you….all the grooms have been great and are awesome at taking pictures.
Part of helping your groom take quality engagement photos that you’ll love, is by helping him know what to expect. Most often they just aren’t sure what they’re getting into…heck…they’ve never taken engagement pictures before, how are they supposed to know!?!?
So, how do you help prep your groom?
01. Remember…this is supposed to be fun! Don’t put too much pressure on him.
First of all, remember that this is supposed to be FUN! This is a shoot with no pressure and no hard and fast timelines. This is your time to have fun as a couple and get to know me as a photographer, and understand how I work. This session will help me figure out how you two move best in front of the camera, help me find all your best poses, and allow me to get to know you better! It’s always a good time! Encourage him and get excited about your session.
02. Explain what he should expect!
Again, he has never done this before so of course he doesn’t know what to expect. He may think he’ll just show up and will take just a few photos and be out the door in 15 minutes.
But that’s not what is going to happen….
Usually my engagement sessions last ~ 2 hours and include 2 outfit changes. This gives us plenty of time to have a calm engagement session, and get you a variety of different poses and photos to choose from. Let him know how long a session will take so he knows what he’s up for.
Walk him through your photographer’s website so he can get an idea of their style and see the variety of poses couples are usually in. This will help him get a visual of what to expect. I would sit down and show him a few of your favorite engagement sessions so that you are both on the same page.
03. Help him pick out outfits!
You can read this earlier post all about how to pick out good outfits for your engagement session.
04. Go into your session with an open mind and trust your photographer.
Remember that your photographer knows that you’ve never done an engagement session before, so they don’t expect you to be an expert at all. Your photographer on the other hand photographs these sessions all the time, so they know where to take photos and how to pose you both so that you’ll get the best images possible. I walk through what to expect to each of my couples at the start of an engagement session and guide them every step of the way. So it’s your job to just relax and go with the flow!
If you prep your groom and help him relax, you’ll have a wonderful time at your engagement session.
Do you have any other questions about how to prep for an engagement session? Leave your questions below, I’d love to answer them!